3-01-08: 2:22pm  by Scott, Detroit, MI.	Natalie,  My wife insists on "ladies night out."  She often times comes home late, and intoxicated.  The next day is always weird..she is very distant.  Any advice?
SPYGIRL says	Scott,  Thanks for you contact.  I think there are some strong indicators of "issues" here.  You may want to pay extra attention to credit card statements and phone traffic.  This may be a case to discuss with a private investigator.  Although one red flag is not always enough to cast a strong shadow... you seem to have a few here.  Best of luck!
3-03-08: 8:17am by ffxac23	My boyfriend works with several attractive ladies.  They frequently go out to lunch together.  I am concerned that he may be having one or multiple relationships with them.  Whenever I come into his office, it seems VERY tense.. like everyone is watching what they say.  Thanks ffxac23
SPYGIRL says	Hi ffxac23,  My first question is... DO YOU TRUST HIM?  Are there issues in the past that may cloud the waters?  If they are... old dogs?!  Not to say that people cannot change.. they can.  But change is not easy.  I would suggest sitting down with him, and calmly telling him your fears... watch his response.  Defensive and argumentative tends to lean in the direction of guilty.  a reassuring tone of voice, followed with positive views of your relationship would be a stronger indicator that you may be a worry wart.  Start to focus of any unusual activities or patterns.  New work outs, lifestyle changes.  Begin with a sit down talk... and go from there.  Let us know, and good luck!
3-03-08: 6:32pm by ffxac23	THANKS!  Will give it a try!
3-11-08: 10:39am by Kelli	I suspect my husband is having an on line love affair?  I am not very computer savvy... do you have any tips?
SPYGIRL says	Kelli,   I SURE DO!  You can start with the basics.. check his computer internet history.  This is available in the options of your web browser.  Check the sites he is visiting, and any downloads that might be coming into your computer.  Another great product is called Google Desktop, available for a free download at the Google website.  This program lets you track the web traffic even after he deletes it.  A VERY POWERFUL weapon in the war on pornography.  Give it a try, and feel free to contact me should you need some help!
3-19-08: 4:21pm by Lewis V.  Novi, MI.	Hi Natalie, My wife has recently announced that she is going to drop 35 pounds, if it kills her.  Now at the same time, she has become obsessed with her tan.  She works in a law firm, with many well paid fellows.  I hate to say it, but I think she is thinking about cheating on me.  Can you help? -Lewis V.
SPYGIRL says	Lewis, Sadly enough, this sounds like a very familiar scenario.  Yes, you do have some red flags there, but... I recommend inviting yourself to lunch with her, on a regular basis.  If she is reluctant, you might surprise her.  If she accepts, watch the interaction with the co-workers.  You may be pleasantly surprised, and she just might be trying to put a little pizazz back in your marriage. Or... there may be a skeleton or two.  Don't jump to conclusions yet, look deeper, and watch for more warning signs.  Send us an update when you can!
3-22-08: 11:11am by Veronica of Toledo	Natalie, Do you consider emailing an ex-spouse, and sharing a friendship with them, after a divorce, acceptable?
SPYGIRL says	Yes and no!  Sorry for the grey area... children involved?  A healthy relationship can be a great role model for those children coping with a divorce.  Arguments and fights.. only damage the children.  BUT... if the candle flame never blew out, AND no kids are involved... you might want to sit down, and discuss how you really feel about this!  Communicate your feelings to him, and go from there!
4-02-08: 7:46pm  by  M.K..	Can I GPS track my wife's car?
SPYGIRL says	M.K., Sounds like there may be some problems.  If you are still married and living together, and you have joint control over your possessions... yes!  In the event that you are in the middle of a divorce, or are separated with clear lines of what belongs to who... seek the advice of your lawyer.
4-10-08: 12:12pm by Connie of Findlay, OH	My husband seems to think that I am always up to something no good!  He is very jealous, and very over protective!  Is he hiding something?
SPYGIRL says	Hi Connie, I am not a psychologist... but he could be!  The next question:  Has he had a history of infidelity?  This may be a pot, calling the kettle....   Look for the red flags in his life.  If they keep popping up, sit down and have "the talk!"  You deserve to be happy!